Self judgement

I saw a facebook post recently where a mom was being rough on herself for needing a c-section instead of having a natural birth.  It made me start thinking about how we think about ourselves, the judgement we place on ourselves compared to others.  I try not to place judgement on others.  I feel like we can't say what it is we would or wouldn't do until we walk a mile in another's shoes.  There was a time in my life I would have been homeless if it hadn't been for the grace of my family, with support from my parents church.  It wasn't because I was lazy, or didn't care.  It was because of a series of bad decisions.  And, as Maya Angelou says, "When you know better, you do better".  So here's the thing, I would never look at a woman and tell her she is less than because she had to have a c-section, can't breastfeed, etc.  And yet, when I had to be induced with my first daughter, I felt like I should have done something different, like the mothers that were able to wait for natural birth were "better than" me.  It's really amazing how cruel we can be to ourselves.  As a mother, I'm always wondering if I am making the right choices, wondering if I am good enough.  What I do know is that I love my girls and I'm doing my best for them.  The same self judgement is true related to other aspects of life, specifically, in my case, related to my weight.  I would never look at a woman who is obese and think, "What's wrong with her?  Why can't she just stop eating?  She must be a lazy slob."  Never, ever would I place that judgement on someone else, and yet I've said those things to myself time and time again.  Perhaps, we should start trying to treat ourselves with the kindness we grant others, with more compassion, less judgement.  Perhaps, if we could do this, we will not only be happier and even healthier, but we will revolutionize the attitudes of our daughters so that they will feel strong and empowered instead of feeling like they are "less than".